After a divorce, it may seem hard to get back out there. It may seem like everyone has already found the love of their life. You’re only seeing it that way because you haven’t been single in a while. You may also be worried about bringing new people into your children’s lives. It’s probably been a while since you have gone out on dates and started meeting new people. However, you will be pleasantly surprised to realize how many divorced singles there really are. You will also be surprised about how many people are also single with kids looking for a match, or will be willing to bring your children in their lives. There are so many people who are in the exact same boat as you. Dating again doesn’t have to be that hard. Here are some good websites for you to use to jump back into dating.
OkCupid
Rate: 3.5 out of 5 stars.
OkCupid is an edgy and easy to use site with over one million users visiting this site every month. To be a paid member on this site, it costs $19.95 for a one-month subscription or $14.95 per month for a three-month subscription.
How to Get Started
This is a heart clear and easy site to use and get started on. Simply downed the mobile app or go to the website to create a profile. You can create a free membership to feel out the website, but ultimately you will get the most out of a paid membership. However, it is free to message people and view profiles. If you want to delve into the site deeper, with a paid membership you are capable of seeing who likes your profile and when others you like are logged on or last logged on. This website is also LGBTQ friendly which is great because it shows the website is diverse and allows you to match with exactly the type of person you are looking for, no matter the color, race, or gender. To get started the site will ask you if you’re looking for a hookup, new friends, a short-term relationship, or a long-term relationship. This is important because if you don’t want to jump right back into a serious relationship, your matches will know. You then will fill out a short bio, answer many questions about yourself and what you’re looking for, and submit a profile picture.
The Process
On this site, you are able to add up to six photos for others to see if you. It is important to put in your bio or profile that you have children and make sure it’s clear that they are of utmost importance to you. Once your account is activated, OkCupid will send you a message giving you dating advice and giving you information to help you use the site to your advantage. That matches that you get have a percentage to show what percent of their profile seemed to match or be a good match with yours. You will only see messages from people that you have liked so that you are not overwhelmed. You will receive matches daily who the site has handpicked for you. If at any time you need to delete your account because you found someone ( whether it was on the site or not), the process is easy and stress-free. Overall this a great start for parents coming out of a divorce who are looking to start dating again.
HowAboutWe
Rate: 3.5 out of 5 stars.
This is a site that is different from others because it focuses on actual real-life dates and what you would want to do with your match in person. This site has an original idea. A subscription is $34.99 a month, but you can get a free account. There are millions of users and the site is LGBTQ friendly.
How to Get Started
The signup process is easy and will only take about 10 minutes. You can skip any questions you don’t want to answer, but the questions are fun and really focus on what you like and what you want. This site is all about spending less screen time and more time on real dates with your matches. It asks a lot about what kind of dates you like and what you do for fun. This website is known for bringing numerous different demographics to the same site. This website is stress-free and could be a great start to get back to dating. Make sure that once again you make it known that parenting is your number one priority. You cannot view messages, send messages or see when someone hit the button “intrigue” for you which symbolizes their interest in you. The free membership will give you a good feel for the website, however, you will get the most of the website by getting a paid membership.
The Process:
There are many key concepts to this site that are completely original and different from the typical dating sites. You can do speed dating. There are also what is called the “editor’s pick” where the editor picks creative date ideas for the matches to go on in real life. There are articles and columns that belong to this website that are very helpful and useful about dating and about getting back out into the dating world. By far the coolest aspect of the sight is something that is called “tonight” where you can schedule a date in real time. You can pick one of their favorite date ideas and select a time to go on that date with that person. I feel that this site could be a great way to get back into dating, even if you don’t find the love of your life.
eHarmony
Rate: 4 out of 5 stars.This site has over 10 million active users, 750,000 being paid users. You can access the site with a free account. A paid subscription is $60 per month, which is a little pricey, however, this site is known for success and is worth the money if you use it to its full advantage.
How to Get Started
Matches are based on key areas of personality. There are users from all races, backgrounds, and personalities. This is important because it will give you the opportunity to jump back into dating with a huge selection of people to choose from. The eHarmony guarantee is also another great part of this dating website. If you are not satisfied with any of your matches within the first three trial months, you will receive another three months of using harmony for free. The sign-up process is extremely thorough, which helps narrow down the perfect guy for you. It takes about 20 minutes which takes over double what most other dating sights take. This may seem like a lot, but it uses your information to try to match you with the best possible matches. This site is known for pairing people into long-term relationships. If you just want someone serious in your kids lives again, this is the site for you. Any member on this website is more than likely looking for someone to spend the rest of their life with.
The Process
If you don’t have a subscription you can’t view messages or photos. To get the full value of this website, you have to get the subscription. You can send a person a “smile” which is nice because it let them know that you are interested without having to send them a message. The person will be notified when you send them a smile and then they have the opportunity to message you if they would like to. However, there is no video aspect of this dating website. So, you don’t get to hear any of the members talk. It also has limited search options, would sometimes make the overall process a bit lengthy. There is no way to just scroll through all the users, it only lets you see the users who are matched to you. This can be a good thing so that you aren’t too overwhelmed, however, if you are looking to search for specific things, you cannot. eHarmony does continue to stick to its original idea, and not try to change to adapt to new mainstream websites and new trends. There is also an app on your phone where you can easily access all the information you need for your account. Overall, the entire website seems to be at a higher level than most other dating websites. The method is down to a science, which makes sense because the creator was a psychologist. This isn’t a website for messing around and messaging anyone who you find attractive. It really focuses on finding true matches who will hopefully end up in a long-term relationship, which is good when you are considering your children’s lives as well.
Conclusion
Overall, we mentioned the best sites for divorced parents here but there are many more sites I did not name that are on the web. There are so many people on dating sites looking for partners that you can choose from. Don’t be nervous, get yourself out there and let yourself have some fun. Dating should always be fun and a good thing. Remember that if you don’t like someone you do out with, that’s okay and there are plenty of fish in the sea. Just be sure to let your dates know that you are a parent and that is of utmost importance to you. People will like the passion that you have towards your children. Get back out there and have some fun.
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