Sitting in your kitchen after another night out, shoving spoonfuls of ice cream straight out of the carton into your mouth. This isn’t the first time. You’ve been going out and playing the dating game for a while now and nothing seems to be working. Sound familiar?
The question comes up should you try online dating and why? If you are looking for love then online dating gives you more options. You should do it because you can meet potential mates quicker and more efficiently. The old way of trying to meet someone in person is a tough way to find someone.
Sure, you go to the bar and you meet person after person, but nothing seems to click, or there’s always other obstacles getting between you and finding your perfect match.
The hard part maybe meeting people, and not only do you need to meet you have to be actually compatible. So here you are all alone at night, again, and a random thought pops into your head. “Should I try online dating?” Of course, you’ve thought of this before, but before it always just seemed a little too crazy. Well as of late, maybe the idea isn’t so crazy after all.
What have you got to lose?
You’d be surprised how many people you know who are spending their time meeting people online, so here are a few reasons why you should too.
We need to refer back to the bar scenario, sure there’s a good amount of people there, but of course, after a while, you start to see some repeats and there are actually only so many options, right?
Most often, the same type of a person if not the same people tend to frequent the same places. This is especially helpful if you are from a small town. In a place where you’ve known everyone just about your whole life, it can be hard to find someone to spark up some romance with.
Many relationships are already established and have been for a while, and those that are left are just the same ones who have never sparked your interest before.
That’s where the game changes with online dating.
You could have almost endless amounts of options with a little help from a website or app. So, dating online basically opens up a huge resource of contact with maybe thousands of new people as well as people from all different locations, AKA people you may have never had gotten the chance to contact otherwise.
Finally, the best part is you can guarantee they are all single and looking too because they wouldn’t be on the site if they weren’t!
That brings me to my next point, online dating takes a lot of hassle out of the whole process. Never been a big fan of playing the game, trying to figure out if someone is single or not? Online dating is for you.
Some apps even help you to know if the other person is interested, you wouldn’t have matched if they didn’t swipe right. Sometimes that’s half the battle and takes about all your courage to just ask them. So, now that you already know whether or not they’re interested and that they’re available and looking, you’re one step closer to finding your next significant other or dare I say maybe even next husband or wife.
Easy to find like-minded people
Online dating is it can make it easier to find people who are like-minded or similar to you. Say you are between 50-60 years old looking for someone to be in a relationship with, you probably won’t have as much luck at the hip singles club down the street.
Or, let’s say you are a very religion-based person and wish to find someone who has similar spiritual values. This may not be the easiest quality to pick out about someone most day to day settings.
Online dating can solve both of these problems! Not only can you put exactly what you are looking for out there along with the kind of person you are, but there are even some sites nowadays created specifically for people in certain groups that range from demographic to religious beliefs.
No matter what kind of person you are searching for, they can probably be found fairly easily online.
There are dating sites for everything from older people wanting to connect to finding sugar daddy’s if that is your thing. Check out our dating sites page where we review many of the different sites you can try depending on what you are looking for to date.
Technology helps you connect
A great thing about online dating is how utterly simple it can be. With today’s technology, most of the work is done for you. The app or program you choose to use will do all the work of finding thousands of prospective love interests, so all that’s left for you to do is the fun part!
Start chatting it up and getting to know people! Even if you’re shy, or just not the most outgoing person on earth, online dating can work for you.
First of all, you don’t have to go through the high-stress situation of going up and introducing yourself to some random stranger you happened to find attractive, instead you can do it comfortably behind a screen in your pajamas.
Secondly, you can get all the awkward small talk and getting to know each other out-of-the-way even before the first date! At least knowing someone a little bit before the meeting can definitely make first dates a bit less intimidating.
You have dating apps that find people right next to you and online all the different dating sites can leave you confused. Just check out our dating sites page and pick one to try to see if you like it. Do not let technology scare you from finding someone to connect with online.
I know what you’re thinking. This sounds great and all but you’re questioning a few things.
Firstly, is it safe? I think the correct answer is you need to always be alert to keep yourself safe. Sure, you could go out and meet a guy that just messaged you, at some sketchy secluded place all by yourself, or you could go about this the logical way and just be smart about it.
If something seems too good to be true, honestly, it probably is.
Plus, be cautious of someone who seems too eager.
For example, some guy or girl who wants to go out to dinner after just a few traded words. Take your time to at least chat a bit before meeting them. They aren’t going anywhere, and if they are, then they weren’t the right one anyway and there’s plenty more fish in the sea.
Lastly, remember that you actually don’t even know this person. Do not let them know where you live on the first date and make sure you go somewhere very public common sense. Maybe try out a popular restaurant or coffee shop. Anywhere with a good amount of public traffic should be a safe bet. The moral of this story is to use common sense and trust your best judgment.
You should carry mace or pepper spray with you at all times. Safety should be a big concern so make sure you are packing pepper spray. You also need to make sure you know how to use it so check out our video below.
You can also check out our article online dating safety tips for women.
Now the second thing you’re probably thinking, isn’t online dating kind of embarrassing?
The answer is no!
A while ago there used to be a certain stigma surrounding online dating and it may have sort of had a bad connotation, but times are changing!
You probably would not believe how many people you know use online dating sites or apps. People of all ages, sexualities, and genders are reverting to online ways of meeting people these days.
So now that barriers have been broken, it’s your chance to put yourself out there too!
Have no fear
Hopefully, I have almost got you convinced, right? Except there’s one fear still on your mind.
What if someone you know sees your profile? The horror!
Well, I’m here to tell you, you have nothing to be embarrassed by. Weren’t you listening to me earlier? I could bet you that tons of people you know are using online dating too! Also, if they do see your profile doesn’t that mean that they would have to be on the site too?
A majority of dating sites require you to have a profile to view someone else’s, so they have just as much to be worried about as you. Plus, what do you have to be embarrassed by? If you’re putting anything on your profile that you wouldn’t want people you know to see, then you shouldn’t be putting it on there. Also, if you are then you aren’t going to attract the right kind of people who you want anyway.
Ok, on that note, now that I’ve got you on the online dating bandwagon there are a few things you need to remember. Like I said in the last paragraph, don’t write anything you wouldn’t want people you already know or your friends to see. This will help you get more response from people you might more easily connect with, I mean you connect with your friends, right?
Even more specifically, do not, and I repeat, do not lie on your profile. I’m sure you wouldn’t want to show up to a date and not have all the facts about the person match up, so your dates don’t want that either.
Another thing I will mention is, take precautions and don’t be careless with personal information. I’m definitely not saying everyone online is a catfish, but they are definitely out there.
Now for my last piece of advice, have fun with it. I’ll be the first to admit dating and just talking to new people, in general, is enjoyable, so take advantage of it! Especially online where a lot of the normal pressures are taken off. I can’t promise you that you’re going to meet the love of your life, but I can guarantee online dating will open up a whole new world of talking with interesting people and a whole bunch of fun.