Once you get older, you realize that age doesn’t always mean anything. Someone who’s twenty can be more mature than someone who is thirty. When it comes to dating, sometimes women click better with older men because they like the maturity factor.
It takes men a bit longer to mature than it does for women. But, you have to make sure that you go about this in the right way. Here are a few tips on what to focus on when it comes to dating a younger girl.
Make sure she knows this is more than a “Fling”
The first thing that women assume when getting involved with an older man, is that they may just want a fling. It is very important that if you want to maintain a relationship, you let them know that you are in this for the long run. Let them know that it’s not just about looks and age and that you actually like their personality and want to be in a relationship with you.
The main reason that women like older men are because of their maturity. Act your age because that is part of why they like you.
Don’t try to act younger.
More than likely they will have a very mature personality if they are wanting an older man, so your personalities should clash well. Be proud of your age and what you have been through in your life. It might help you have a better relationship.
Have confidence in yourself.
Confidence is attractive.
Don’t feel embarrassed by your age, instead embrace it. Use what you have ad what you have learned to help create a great relationship.
Don’t take advantage
Just because a woman is younger than you, does not mean that she is any more likely to put up with your crap. Do not think that finding a younger girl is going to solve the problems you had in any past relationships.
Women mostly think the same.
It doesn’t matter how old they are, you still have to treat them right, and they are still going to stand up for themselves. Don’t try to use your age to make her feel inferior.
Let her do her own thing
You had the opportunity already to live out the years that she is in, so make sure she has the chance too. Do not tell her how to live her life. Let her do her own thing, and in the end, it will help your relationship.
It is important for her to keep growing as a person and making new experiences. Don’t try to tell her what to do. Don’t keep her from her friends, families, or hobbies. If you try to change her or tell her what to do you will lose her.
She needs to figure herself out just like you had the chance to. She will be happier when she is doing other things that she loves, which therefore means that she will be happier at home or in her free time when she is with you.
The worst thing that you can do is come into her life and try to control it. You are not her parent, you are supposed to be her best friend and biggest supporter.
Don’t act superior
Just because you’re older, does not mean that you are superior to her. The first turn off for girls is when a guy starts acting like a know it all.
She just wants a friend, supporter, and lover.
She does not want someone who is going to be controlling, act like she is inferior, and make her feel dumb. You should be making her feel like she is the smartest, prettiest, and best girl in the world. Approach this just as you would someone your own age.
Age does not define maturity or intelligence and it is very important to remember that when going after younger girls. Younger girls going after older men usually have strong personalities anyway, which really would not clash well with a superiority complex.
You should both feel evenly mature and intelligent in a relationship in order to maintain a healthy one.
You should be honest with any girl that you are involved with, but it’s so important to show younger girls that age doesn’t matter in a relationship by being honest. Be honest about any issues that you feel may affect your relationship.
Be honest about your friends and family’s opinions on you dating a younger girl, and make sure, to be honest about her friends and family too.
Be honest about all your past relationships and all of your current feelings.
Nothing is more attractive to a girl than honesty and maturity.
Also, be honest about any anger problems that the age gap has caused or may cause so that you can figure out how to overcome these obstacles together. When you keep these things inside, it has a serious effect on the relationship.
Keep up with her lifestyle
Be aware that you may have different versions of having fun due to the age gap. If she still wants to party, and travel, it is unfair of you to not allow her to do so.
She should be able to live her life to the fullest as you have.
Make the effort to go to events and parties with her, so that she has fun. Let her live her life but be a part of it as well. Don’t skip out on all of the events with her younger friends, because deep down she will want you to be there. Just do your best to balance a healthy relationship.
Don’t focus on other opinions
Everyone has different opinions about age gaps in relationships. You will get weird looks and comments said to you in public. Don’t worry about what everyone else thinks or says. If you both are happy, then who cares what everyone else thinks?
If you get too upset by this, it will make your girl feel that you care more about what others think that you care about her and the relationship as a whole. Even if some of your friends and family members have problems with it, they will get over it when they realize that you both truly like each other and are in it for the long run. Don’t let friends or family ruin it for you either.
The only opinions that matter is yours and hers. Also, don’t bring up the age difference too much, because it will give her a complex. If she realizes that you focus on it all the time, she may think that it is going to affect your relationship. She got over it enough to go out with you, so don’t dwell on it. Focus on her, not what others think, and not the age gap.
Don’t buy her love
A common misconception from older men is that money will keep younger girls. Girls are becoming more and more strong and independent. Most women like the fact that they are educated and able to provide for themselves.
Don’t assume that they need your money.
They don’t need financial stability or diamond rings every week from you, they just need a lover and supporter. They aren’t looking for money, they’re looking for a relationship. Don’t try to use the money to make her feel bad or to make up for a fight.
Show that you care and talk through your problems. Spoil her when she deserves to be spoiled but you do not want to use your money to try to keep her in the relationship.
Let her know you’re the real deal
Even strong, younger women need assurance, so make sure that you reassure her often that you are attracted to more than just her appearance and age. Deep down, she may always be wondering if you are just in it to be involved with a younger girl for a little bit.
This is the real deal, and you want a real relationship. Be vocal about your feelings because it really strengthens a relationship. Tell her all the things that you like about her and why you chose her. Always keep her confidence boosted and keep her happy.
Happiness is the most important part of a relationship.
The relationship needs to be based on more than sex
Sex is awesome at all ages but you need to build a relationship on more than just sex. You need to romance her and also be able to talk to each other on an intellectual basis.
You may also have male menopause come into effect because at some point as an older male your sex stamina and sexual parts will not operate like they use to.
You have to have more than sex to have the relationship last.
Do not expect too much from her
You as the older one may be expecting too much from her. She is young and will have just as many issues, hang-ups, and flaws as an older woman. Dating a younger woman because you think they will be all fun with no seriousness is a huge mistake. Talk with her about expectations and what you both want out of the relationship.
This is not just a really attractive woman that will do whatever you say because you are older and supposedly wiser.
She may be expecting too much from him
The woman may expect things like financial security, maturity, and wisdom. The guys her age she has found to be immature and not really sure where they are going in life.
Not to say a guy may be in a mid-life crisis and may lose sight of the direction they are going. The older man will correct ship sooner or later and be back on course in no time.
The women may expect all these things from you which is not fair since you may not be financially good or maybe your just not as mature as what she had in mind as far as expectations go.
Meeting the parents be calm
Dating a woman 10 years younger is not too bad when it comes to meeting the parents. If she was 20 or 30 years younger that would be tough since the woman’s dad is close to the age of the boyfriend. Just be yourself and try not to overdo it. Hopefully, the parents do all the talking and you just answer the questions they send your way.
You could ask your girlfriend what each parent likes to do or is interested in. This way you can bring up those things to talk about. Get them to talk about themselves or tell stories because we all know people love to talk about themselves.
Overall, just make sure that you are not embarrassed about the age gap, and that she isn’t either. If you are both happy and encouraging to each other, you will have a happy, healthy relationship. Be confident, but not too confident that you are acting superior.
Embrace your age, be proud and thankful for you woman, and treat her with respect at all times.
Don’t focus on everyone else’s opinions because it will consume you and affect a relationship that could’ve been great.
If you follow all these tips, you should get the most out of your relationship and successfully be able to date a younger woman. Just don’t forget to let her live out her life and have fun.
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